I know because I do it myself.
Really. I was doing it shortly before writing this.
So I’m going to share with you a few of the ways I make it hard for me to sit around feeling sorry for myself, in case you might find something useful for yourself.
Push all the YES MEN in your life out and start surrounding yourself with people who will tell you when you suck as quickly as they’ll admit that you’re the best thing ever.
When you get down to it, most of us can’t see ourselves clearly. Sometimes we need to be able to see ourselves through the eyes of the people who know us. Trust this process and it can make all the difference when the hard times come on.
Know When To Tune Even Those You Trust Out
When it comes to finding your passions in life, no one is going to know this better than you. Not your friends, your parents or your pastor. So don’t consult with people about it. You gotta look inside and dig around if necessary.
It’s the only way and there are no shortcuts, so don’t waste your time taking some crappy quiz in a magazine or getting a reading from some psychic about this.
Take some alone time and get to know who you really are.
If you already know yourself and what you’re about, get on with what you need to get on with and don’t ask anybody if it’s a good idea. If it’s your dream and it isn’t hurting other people, don’t look for permission, be grown about it and get to doing.
Hold Yourself Accountable
Know what you expect out of yourself and hold yourself to it. If you feel like you’re screwing up bad enough, go back to trusting someone and ask someone who will be honest.
If you are making a mess of things, have someone competent help you figure out what you need to change.
If you are doing a good job, pat yourself on the back and get back to doing your thing. You aren’t done yet.
Involve Others Who Have Expectations For Your Success
There are times where all of us find things just a little too hard, and because of this, it can be easy to forgive ourselves “this time”. That is until next time and the time after that.
If you bring in someone who is depending on you to do what you set out to do, the stakes get raised.
It isn’t as easy to disappoint others as it is ourselves. Take advantage of this and bring someone on board your team that you don’t want to disappoint.
The goal here is not to worry about finding a balance between looking inside yourself and seeking the aid of others, it is to understand what is getting in your way and finding the method to circumvent it.
Sometimes, what you need is a lift from a friend or loved one. Other times, only you will possess the wherewithal to keep your dreams alive and within your grasp.
If you have a tactic you use to overcome feeling sorry for yourself and stagnating, comment below if you please.